Hey Mummy! Any race, black or white , motherhood has a quiet way of teaching us lessons we didn’t know we were ready for. Sometimes those lessons come through sleepless nights, sticky fingers, or school drop-offs. And sometimes, they come from something as everyday and as meaningful as hair.
Some of my earliest memories involve sitting beside my mother in the salon, watching women arrive as they were and leave transformed. As a child, I didn’t fully understand what I was witnessing. As a mother, I do. Black women’s hair taught me about identity, choice, and the kind of joy that comes from being seen lessons that feel especially relevant in parenthood.
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Hair, Identity, and the Quiet Lessons Our Children Watch
As mums, our children are always watching us. They observe how we care for ourselves, how we speak about our bodies, and how we show up in the world. Hair whether we realize it or not becomes part of that story.
In those salon chairs, Black women made choices. Some bold, some simple, some rooted in tradition, others inspired by change. Each style reflected something personal. That’s where I first learned that hair and identity are deeply connected.
For children, especially, seeing their mother or caregivers embrace their hair natural, styled, changing sends a powerful message: you are allowed to choose who you are.
Why Hair Is About More Than Appearance
In motherhood, it’s easy to push ourselves to the bottom of the list. Hair appointments get postponed. Self-care feels optional. But watching Black women prioritize their hair reminded me that care is not vanity it’s maintenance of the self.
Black hair culture, in particular, carries a deep understanding of hair as culture. It holds history, creativity, and autonomy. Caring for hair becomes an act of intention a pause in busy lives to reconnect with oneself.
For mums raising children of color, or children with textured hair, these moments are even more meaningful. Hair care becomes bonding. It becomes affirmation. It becomes a way to say, you are beautiful as you are.
Also Read: What Kids Really Love: Simple Moments That Matter Most
Agency, Reinvention, and Motherhood
One of the most powerful lessons Black women’s hair teaches is that reinvention is allowed. A new style doesn’t need a reason. It can simply reflect growth, healing, or a new season of life.
Motherhood changes us our bodies, our priorities, our sense of self. Watching women move confidently through different hairstyles taught me that identity doesn’t disappear when we become mothers. It evolves.
This is agency and self-expression in action: choosing how we present ourselves, even as life shifts around us.
The Role of Joy For Us and Our Children
Joy matters. Not the loud, picture-perfect kind but the quiet joy of looking in the mirror and recognizing yourself. The joy of care. The joy of choice.
Black hair and joy are closely linked because hair care can be restorative. It creates space to slow down, reflect, and reconnect. For children, especially, seeing joy modeled in everyday rituals teaches them that caring for themselves is normal and necessary.
These small moments shape how children understand confidence, beauty, and worth.
What Easy Mummy Takes From This
At Easy Mummy, we believe motherhood should feel supportive, not overwhelming. The lessons found in Black women’s hair align beautifully with that belief:
- You are allowed to change
- You are allowed to care for yourself
- Your identity matters especially as a mum
- Joy is not extra, it’s essential
A Gentle Reminder for Mums
Looking back, those salon memories feel like quiet preparation for motherhood. Black women’s hair taught me that agency can be soft, joy can be simple, and identity can grow alongside our children.
Hair can be expression. Hair can be connection. Hair can be love, passed down gently. And as mums, that’s a lesson worth holding onto.
